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This topic always sparks a debate doesn't it? I usually read and listen to it all, Hag and I rant to each other about the fact that well basically what we are talking about here is a mother feeding her child.
Simple right? Seems not.
In New Zealand the debate has been sparked up yet again in Timaru over a women breastfeeding in a cafe. You can read some of the details here. To be honest I haven't read a lot of the details, and I do not agree with the treatment of the cafe owner either, however I have tuned in to a few discussions around the country, and at risk of boring my family with my ongoing rants, I am getting it out here...
Firstly, they're just breasts?!? Breasts. That is all.
I feel so strongly that people need to stop sexualising this natural part of life. And such an important part of life at that. If you don't want to see a breast while eating, don't look!?! And I still can't understand why some people don't want to see people breastfeeding when they are eating? What is so repulsive about it? The baby is eating too. I say, turn your back and let the poor women feed her child if you have a problem. Don't make a big deal out of it and it won't become a big deal.
Secondly, breastfeeding is no walk in the park.
Those of you out there that do and have breastfed must know how flipping awkward and niggly it can be, especially when you are in public. Getting your position correct, getting your baby latched on, especially if they are crying. It is hard to breastfeed at the best of times and if you are 'blessed' as I am, to have rather generously sized milkers, it's extremely hard to get them under control. I saw one man on television lately saying that women need to be more discreet when feeding. I say, you try it and then tell me how easy it is. I am sure that most women are more embarassed then the people looking at them, we try our best to be discreet, but if you catch a glimpse of a nipple now and again, just get over it.
Thirdly, exhibitionism, really?
I even heard one man (yup I'm picking on the men today) say that this woman in Timaru must have been an exhibitionist. Like him, I wasn't there, but I find it very hard to believe that any woman breastfeeding a 3 month old would want anyone looking at her engorged, milk-filled breasts, they would much rather you leave her to feeding her child. There are numerous benefits for babies and mums who breastfeed, so as a society don't you think we should be doing all we can to enable women to provide such a gift to our children? I certainly do.
On a personal note, I am currently breastfeeding my second baby, and well, I don't really get out much! But when I do I will breastfeed my baby girl in public, I do try to be discreet, although don't use a blanket to cover myself. Two weeks ago I had to take Sylvie to the doctors, it was around feeding time, and of course the waiting room was packed, there were people coming and going and there wasn't a great selection of chairs (important when you are feeding) Too add to it all I had a breast infection, which meant I had a fever and that Sylvie was being quite fussy when being feed. So here I am, feeling my heart to starting to race, trying to get my wee one latched on, she starts crying, I'm thinking "that's all you need in a doctors waiting room, a crying baby", and I'm worried about how many people are going to see my large, (infected for that matter) breast, when I look up and no one in the waiting room is looking at me. Perfect. (Maybe it's because they felt uncomfortable, I don't know, but that's their problem not mine.) That's all we want isn't it? To be able to feed our children wherever, whenever we like. (Relieved I quickly flash my nipple, in order to get that baby on, and nurse 'til her little hearts content.)
That's what I think anyway. How about you?
Big 'ups' to all of you amazing men out there who support and encourage your wives, partners, sisters, daughters, friends and families to breastfeed - you make a difference.